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Relationship-crisis: Take the right steps in love and trust!
Welcome to Relationship-crisis! Is yours relationship falling apart?...Love and Trust Matter!
The steps covered in this theme include: My grandmother was always fond of saying..."marriage is just like a lucky bag". You never know what’s going to come out of it! She wisely offered the following advice to me, and how lucky and grateful I was, in retrospect, to receive it:
"...it’s what you do with relationships that really matters...". Put nothing in and you get nothing back. Now that's not really surprising is it?
In a relationship-crisis, there is an almost endless list of relationship woes...but it comes back to what you put in that counts. Trust, or rather lack of trust, can destroy relationships. It is fundamental to sustaining love and happiness.
It is a good idea to walk away from such a situation in the beginning if your partner is showing any signs of mistrust that he or she can't deal with effectively. It is understandable to be anxious of another person stares at you all through dinner, but another issue if your partner becomes angry at you for it. Regardless of what your partner may tell you, trust has nothing to do with love. But it has to do with losing control because you feel insecure. Some partners will be abusive in a jealous rage. Later, they will apologize and tell you it is just because they love you so much. It needs to be clear that love and trust are not the same thing.
Do not let your relationship be controlled by a lack of trust or you will never be happy or truly in love. Some partners try to fool themselves into believing things will improve over time, that their partner will become more trusting.
Mostly it doesn't work that way. In fact the issue will consume both of you unless your partner works to improve the situation.Low self esteem and the threat of losing a partner can fuel insecurity and lack of trust to unrealistic levels. The longer you allow such patterns of behavior to continue in your relationship, the more difficult it will be to walk away from them.
You may find yourself avoiding friends and family as well as not taking care of yourself or trying to resolve the situation. Mostly, nothing you do will work. This is because your views and perceptions of the other person are overcome with unreasonable views that have to change. The best thing you can do for yourself and a jealous partner is to discuss the issue in the beginning when it first takes place. Make sure you do this in a restaurant or other public place in case tempers rage out of control.
Explain to your partner why their feelings of lack of trust are unfounded as well as why you will not stay in the relationship unless they seek help. If your partner is willing to get counseling and follow through with making changes it may save your relationship. If they refuse, this is the time to walk away from the relationship and never look back. A relationship will never survive without trust! You can't love someone that you can't trust! “Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.” Dr. Joyce Brothers quote...
William Shakespeare said: "Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none." and “When words are scarce they are seldom spent in vain”... If your relationship is shaky or even in tatters, think about putting something back. It really is that easy! It is natural to feel pain and anger that is part of our complex makeup as individuals. But try putting something back into your relationship. Get rid of the hate and anger that your feel towards your relationship partner. Think about forgiveness. Do this intuitively or through constructive effort. It is the natural action to take. Forgiveness is the natural outcome.
Relationship-crisis: Show you still care? Take action?... Take action in your relationship-crisis to buy a little token of your love and affection as part of the makeup process. It is always appreciated when you make a move towards conciliation in your relationship. And it doesn’t matter which partner makes the first move.
It’s the taking action part that counts. It’s about doing something for yourself and the other party in the relationship.
Relationship-crisis is a two-way street!... Relationships require a lot of hard work to be successful. Remind your self that relationships are a two-way street. You get back in proportion to what you put in always. Work at it. It’s normal to have ups and downs in any relationship.
This should be no surprise. Remember the quote about marriage being a “lucky bag”, well life is also a lucky bag too. Put some real effort into what you want from your relationship and it will pay you back one hundred fold, every time without fail! Don’t give up. That’s why so many relationships end in unhappiness and anger, and even acute depression in some cases.Don’t let the negatives of your relationship-crisis win. Make an effort before it’s too late to save that wonderful partnership with you best friend, your boy/girlfriend, your wife/husband or partner in life. It’s much too easy to fail through not making the right effort. Make your relationships work in wonderful ways to achieve fulfilment and happiness in your life. We only come this way once that I know of. Make the best of your friends, your family and all your relationships. Try it, go on put in a little bit more effort and see how to live a wonderful and fulfilling life. Only you that do it! Relationship-crisis: Is your life situation too hard to bear?... If it becomes too hard and your relationship woes are beyond repair don’t despair. If you have tried all the options and ended up nowhere, then move on. Sometimes you really do need to move on and get a new life as they say. Rediscover the life that you have beyond the broken relationship. You owe that to yourself, your happiness and your peace of mind. Try to part good friends, be sensible about the relationship situation! Remember don’t let the lawyers win too much!
Relationship-crisis: Be sensible trying to part!... Try to part good friends if it's not possible to fix the situation. Be sensible about the relationship and your decisions! Remember don’t let the lawyers win too much! Listed are a number of sources to consult to help resolve your crisis:
How to improve your relationship: How to improve your present relationship and create a great relationship for your future lives together...here
Relationships - mend the broken heart: Relationship crisis: downloadable e-book and audio package that will give you the secrets to getting over a break up or divorce...here
Divorce Primer: Relationship-crisis but you can save your relationship? This book primer can provide some answers...here
Don't give in: Even if you have a relationship-crisis, you can save it! Stop your divorce now!...here
Relationships - mend the broken heart: downloadable e-book and audio package that will give you the secrets to getting over a break up or divorce...here
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